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How Easy is it to Communicate with Spirit?


I really love what I do. I particularly love helping people discover their own intuitive gifts and what they’re capable of.

I had a session with a guy recently who described himself as having a spiritual awakening. He was going through a period of unprecedented, accelerated growth and was grabbing every opportunity with both hands!

Still, I had realistic expectations of what he could hope for. You see, I was guiding him to meet up with his mother who’d died when he was 11 years old and then we were going to connect and communicate with any astral entities present to help them transition to their next right place of expression.

I wasn’t expecting his intuitive gifts to be active and so I wasn’t expecting he would see (clairvoyant) hear (clairaudient), feel (clairsentient) or have information popping spontaneously into his head (claircognizant). I thought the experience would be wondrous – going into Spirit and meeting souls always is! I wasn’t expecting it to be easy for him.

I think he was blown away when he called his mother to him AND SHE CAME! He described her looking healthy and beautiful, just as he remembered her, with a big smile on her face. She was so happy he could see her and connect with her! 

I assisted him to create a clear connection so communication could be easy and gave him a few conversation, started to get the ball rolling. I offered him to open his heart and tell her all he needed to say to her. I asked him to then wait for a response and to say it out loud so I could write down exactly what she said to him. 

This mom’s replies were both beautiful and heartfelt. She was one wise mom! 

He did so well! Through the tears, he spoke all of her relies out loud so I could write them down for him to have as a record afterwards. 

If only we could bottle the whole experience! Nothing compares to firsthand experience. 

But at least the words would give him the rush of remembering all that he felt and saw. I wrote over a page of replies from his mom! Wow! That’s amazing for a beginner!

We went on to have incredibly profound conversations with three others. He saw, felt and communicated with them all. We worked together for almost 2 hours. That’s a long time to concentrate and communicate with Spirit. No doubt, he’d have felt pretty exhausted afterwards. 

So the answer to my question? How easy is it to communicate with someone in Spirit? What about loved ones who’ve died? Can you connect with them? How easy is it really? The answer is…

Easy when you know how!

I use a gentle, easy process that helps you communicate directly with spirit for yourself. I am there every step of the way, walking along side you and helping you whenever you need.

Having a trained professional with you helps ease the connection and makes this process so much smoother. I use my own high vibration and intention to hold sacred space and allow the process to flow smoothly. There’s less mind clutter and interference. You are less likely to be distracted by fear or doubt. 

I offer incredible experiential sessions to connect with anyone in Spirit, whether it be deceased loved ones, astral entities, earthbound spirits, Spirit Guides, angels, Archangels, or ascended masters.

After you have learned how to connect with Spirit for yourself and have gained the confidence to, you can practice whenever you want. 

After your session, the channels of communication are open and you are free to explore all that Spirit has to offer! 

Can you communicate directly with Spirit? Do you want to learn how?

If this resonates and sounds like something you’d love to experience for yourself then contact me for more information.

Art by Freydoon Rassouli

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When Spirit Guides Intervene


Spirit guides are usually unconditionally loving and are not invested in an outcome. They love you and accept you no matter what. They are there for you and don’t see that there’s any wrong choices in life – so long as a choice is made!

Of course, as with everything in life, there are moments when your Spirit guides are desperate and willing to be more forthright and offer their opinions.
Sometimes those opinions are really hard to hear – especially when they run contrary to what you want! It doesn’t happen very often but it does happen. Life is hard enough without absolutely knowing a team of spirit guides have your back! It’s the same as building any relationship – trust is developed over time through shared experiences and proof that they have your back.

Your Spirit Guides can have such a powerful, intimate close bond with you. They can experience more with you than any other. They can also expose you to experiences that offer you healing on such a deep level. When you have absolute implicit trust in your Spirit Guides then you will know they have your best interests at heart. You will willingly do whatever they say, no questions asked.

This is what I experienced with a Temporary Spirit Guide. Temporary Spirit Guides choose to enter your life in periods of dramatic, often heartbreaking, change to assist to transform and process all that is occurring in your world.

My Temporary Spirit Guide had a beautiful nurturing quality but she was also a fairly hard task master who put me through my paces for years until she was satisfied with my progress and retired. This wonderful Temporary Spirit Guide came through to assist me in one of the hardest periods of my youth. It was wonderful in hindsight but at the time it was absolutely heart wrenching!

This Temporary Spirit Guide was with me for one purpose and one purpose only: the breakup of a five-year relationship and to prepare me for the arrival of my life partner. We would hurt each other, there was a lot of confusion and game playing and life just became one big drama. It wasn’t an easy relationship and wasn’t looking like it would get easier. If anything things had deteriorated over the years.

My Temporary Spirit Guide began by pretty much chanting “leave him” whenever I meditated or tried to sleep. She was relentless. It went on for weeks. It was like having something on my ‘To Do’ list I’d forgotten and that niggled at the edge of my mind. Oh yes that’s right, I needed to leave him!

I had been with this guy almost 5 years. We were engaged. We were also deeply unhappy and in a pretty co-dependent dysfunctional relationship I’d already tried to end over and over. But I kept being lured back. He was a lovely guy. We just weren’t mature enough to figure it all out. We got sucked back into the same old patterns.

So I left him. It was horrendous. I felt bereft. It was like ripping out my own heart. Breaking up was agony. I suffered the heartbreak of failed dreams and the rip of losing him in my life. He was a lovely guy. I knew in my heart of hearts it was the right thing to do but I still missed him like I was causing myself so much pain…

So I gave it one last try much to my Temporary Spirit Guide’s horror! That lasted about a month before I eventually made the break once and for all. Fast forward another year on and I’m returning to New Zealand…to see whether there was a future with my ex!!

By this stage my Temporary Spirit Guide must have been ripping her hair out and ready to give up on me! But to his credit, my ex wasn’t interested and although polite he made it plain it was time for me to move on. I did everything I could to disconnect us energetically; a cord cutting and talking to him on a soul level. But I still felt such deep grief.

Reliving Past Lives
In order for me to fully let go my Temporary Spirit Guide spent a year feeding me the highlights of past lives together. During meditation, I was given visuals in my mind’s eye, like watching a film, that offered a quick few seconds of footage before it halted as if paused.

The most significant was a seemingly idyllic life in Syria towards the border with Turkey in around 781AD. In this life, my ex and I were married (a betrothal agreed upon by our parents). We had two children. But our simple, happy life was torn apart when armed Turkish marauders arrived on horseback.

They raped and pillaged our humble village. They left my beloved and two children for dead and dragged me back with them to be a slave for the rest of my life. Our village was famous for textiles or rugs (I just saw the loom set up in each home) and they were sick of paying for them. This was just a way to get slave labor to work the looms.

For an entire year, I witnessed a film of our happiness and contentment being ripped apart in vivid detail. It wasn’t just a visual journey. I felt it all. I relived it. It was an intense full body experience with each new episode revealed. It was incredible all the emotions that came to the surface that I had to process. The most harrowing details were omitted with only the knowledge of what had occurred and the heartbreaking aftermath.

My spirit guide strove not to overwhelm me so sometimes it was a frame, sometimes a few seconds of action. It was horrific! I experienced this life slowly unfolding in order for me to have the time to process it all.

By the end of the year I understood. I had processed so much. All that was left was the final thoughts I’d had as I left my body. When I died I felt so bereft, so lost and betrayed. I felt like all ties had been severed to all the people I loved. There was blame – for the Turks and to God for allowing it to happen. I felt so betrayed.

Letting go of this life meant forgiving all the wrongdoing of the invaders, myself and finally God. This was deeply healing. It was also a huge release and gave me so much understanding around my ex and releasing our bond in this life. Our sacred contract was left incomplete. We had not succeeded in creating a healthy living relationship in this life.

Understanding the past life connection with my ex meant I was no longer fighting the deep soul sadness I felt. By releasing the pain of separation from the past life I was able to see that it was actually not such a hellish rip this time around – it had been a conscious choice and for our highest good.

This Syrian past life made sense of my experience two years earlier crossing the border from Turkey into Syria. I’ve already written about the wave of emotion I experienced entering Syria several years earlier, but it wasn’t until there was a context for me to need to heal this life that it was brought up to my conscious memory.

Having the support and love of my Temporary Spirit Guide was invaluable. She helped me so much. She gave me all the love and encouragement I needed to put my life back together again and release so much from my past. It was truly life changing. She was a harsh task master and dished out tough variety of love! But it was exactly what I needed to get my life back on track.

At the end of the year, she wished me all the best and bid me farewell. Her role was complete and apparently I was no longer needed her. I wasn’t happy to see her go! We’d been through so much together!

I will always be grateful to my Spirit Guides for the extraordinary role they play in my life. They have done so much for me and have always offered me such unconditional love and encouragement.

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Release an Ex-Lover

So, when the relationship is over and you’re ready to move on, how do you let go? If you and an ex are connected on a soul level as twin flames, soul mates or part of your Sacred Contract in this life it can be incredibly difficult to.

After a break up it is necessary to go through the excruciating process of releasing your unresolved baggage from past relationships you will often choose to repeat similar lessons with a new partner. Relationships create beliefs and emotions that have been carried around in your subconscious. This can cloud your perspective and distort your perceptions….

For better or worse!

You may fall into familiar patterns, attracting the same type of person with similar traits to your ex or you might project them onto your new partner if patterns or beliefs are left unresolved. Even if they are aware enough not to take your bait you may still project your expectations onto them or be blind to who they truly are. The guy you attract may behave totally differently with someone else! They may be unconsciously sensing your expectations and meeting your expectations.

Unresolved baggage can be from your current relationship or may stem from further back – your past lives. If you are struggling to move on from an ex its worth looking at the relationship holistically. This is incredibly cathartic, healing work.

So, how do you figure out exactly what these dysfunctional patterns are? And how do you release them?!

Ways to release an Ex lover
When you frequently think about your ex you are unconsciously sending energy to them. It doesn’t matter whether the thoughts are angry or loving. These are transmitted through the cords. The more you think of that person the stronger the entanglement.

The energy exchange takes place regardless of time and space or your desire to ignore it as you continuously influence each other. Every aspect of your life can be directly impacted.

The first step you may need to take is to take a break from being around the ex or anywhere they may be spotted to have some energetic space to truly tune in to the relationship, especially if the intensity of the energy that flows between you confuses or frustrates you.

Whether consciously aware or not, your loved one will be affected by you and vice versa. Your loved one will receive your sadness and anger just as readily as your love and light. Shifts can occur by your actions alone.

What To Do
Soul is soul. You can access the higher self or soul of another person and communicate with them whether they are alive or dead. This allows you to clear the air: to tell them what has affected or hurt you as a result of your relationship. Then you offer them the opportunity to reciprocate.

On this higher soul level you can ask about the current relationship as well as any past lives that have impacted your relationship in this life. This is incredibly helpful in fully recognising the patterns played out from lifetime to lifetime, and understanding how to break the pattern in this lifetime.

Chances are there is past life history or Sacred Contract agreements in place. These are not easy to break. Free will means even if you’ve held up your side of the agreement and fulfilled your agreed role in the Sacred Contract, if the other person has decided not to their part there’s not a lot you can do.

Thank him for the time you spent together. Thank him for all the learning you received. Tell him how grateful you are. Tell him your connection has ended, the relationship is over. Your and your energy is no longer available to him. Communicate directly to his soul and explain you are no longer available to work with him in Spirit (or dreamtime). Thank him and ask that he honour your energetic boundaries.

Offer forgiveness. Forgiveness dissolves karma and karmic ties. It is not condoning any bad behavior or accepting any hurt or harm caused. It is just letting it go for your benefit so you no longer have to be burdened and influenced by it.

This isn’t done so you can argue or defend your position, but as an open and loving exchange to fully clarify both sides of the relationship. It isn’t done to condone bad behaviour or to remove the pain caused. But deep healing is possible if you can forgive each other (and yourself!) for any wrongdoing and hurt caused. This is incredibly moving as so often this is enough to relinquish the cycle of blame holding the relationship in dysfunctional patterns.

Finally, you can draw up an imaginary Contract with all the newfound awareness of all the roles and learning given and received. Both of you sign it. Stamp it ‘Complete’.

By gaining clarity on exactly what the Sacred Contract agreement was between you, writing it out and asking for it to be completed, you signal to the Universe that you are no longer subject to this agreement.

When you are ready to fully let go of your ex, pull all the cords out (it might look more like a cobweb or a tangled mess!) and allow them to be free. Say good bye and wish them all the best with all your heart.

Cutting the Ties
If it’s too raw and painful to do by yourself please know I am here for you. You do not have to do this alone. I offer Cord Cuttings to assist you. That way you have loving support every step of the way. You do not have to go it alone. These are one on one sessions over Skype.

A cord cutting is a way of cutting the energetic ties that bind you to your ex. These are no longer healthy or needed. A cord cutting releases the energetic ties that have built up between you. It’s a struggle to separate physically when still energetically entangled!

Cords are a method of high speed telepathic and energetic communication and sharing of information and energy.

We are all energetically attached to each other through cords that are attached to chakras. Healthy cords are clear in colour and give and receive energy in equal measure. Unhealthy cords are dark in colour and leave you feeling drained and depleted of energy.

By cutting the ties that bind you together, you are given breathing space. You are given the unique opportunity to release ties from ex lovers and prevent them from reforming or to create a new mutually beneficial relationship built on a healthier dynamic.

Releasing old cords is essential in order to move beyond pain and connect with who you truly are. It liberates you from old unresolved patterns or beliefs, freeing up your energy.

The purpose is to liberate all involved, to let go of all wrong doing in the past, and to create closure.

These cords reach across time and space so we work with the cords on all levels., layers and dimensions. Any healing process requires a conscious awareness and personal ownership of the process.

The intent is not to sever ties with the person, to blame or demonise the ex, but to release the dysfunctional patterns created by the dynamic you both created and to take ownership for any part you played.

Love is not a tap. You can’t just turn it off. I will always hold my ex in my heart. By working through the energetic entanglements you are able to fully release your ex lover to their own path and give you the freedom to meet someone new and have a healthier more fulfilling relationship.

Art by Noa Knafo

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