My first ever encounter began within a dream. My dream took a weird turn. I found myself in a room, in a little single bed, more like a stretcher. Suddenly the end legs collapsed and the foot of the bed crashed to the floor, giving me a fright. I realized (lucid dreaming) that this wasn’t my dream anymore, that I needed to wake up NOW because something wasn’t right in my actual bedroom.

I woke and lay there in the dark trying to figure out what was going on in my weird dream. I was lying on my side, legs curled up. My legs were tired of that position so I stretched y legs out straight…

Only my legs didn’t move. “Huh that’s weird” thinks I. I tried again. Still they didn’t move. I was beginning to wake up now. Too many things weren’t making any sense. My awareness was stepping in and I my brain was waking up. I stretched my hand down and checked the muscles at the backs of my knees- yes, my muscles were engaged and trying to push down. What the hell? What on earth was stopping them from stretching? And slowly I realised…

There was something blocking my legs. Something was at the end of my bed. There was something I couldn’t see but that I couldn’t physically push through. There was something there!!!!!

I sat up in bed on my elbow, trying to see what was there. Nothing…

She waited long enough for me to be fully awake ad fully aware of her presence. Then she stood, and with a swish of her long skirts she turned, she took three purposeful strides…

And she walked straight through my door.

The details of this night are firmly and permanently tattooed on my brain. This night was such a turning point for me I’ve recounted the events over and over again. They are as fresh and real to me now as if it happened a few nights ago, not in 1993!!

Only the fear is gone. No, not fear. That night I was absolutely petrified. I lay frozen in fear!! Every hair on my body was standing up! My eyes were wide open. I have never ever been so very scared in all my life!! I had never encountered anything like it.

I lay there in shock, shaking and unable to breathe. I waited long enough for the adrenalin to kick in then I sprung from my bed and turned on every light I had!! But it didn’t help. I was NEVER going to sleep in that room again!! EVER! I ended up sneaking in to bed with my girlfriend but didn’t tell her my story until the morning, when the light of day had come to banish her back into the shadows.

That first encounter became regular feature of the flat I lived in with 4 others. We all had our own frightening tales to tell. This earthbound was intent on scaring us so we respected her house and her rules!

I was 20 years old, in my last year of university. I was young. I had no idea of anything spiritual. I had had no interest up until that point. Then began my crash course in spirit wrangling!

The Slamming Door
This earthbound spirit used every trick to gain attention and make sure we all knew who was boss! It became common to see objects sliding along mantle pieces, feel clothing being pinched, curtains billowing into shapes, hear walking that passed through solid walls and doors, not to mention the transparent form gliding above their beds at night or the front door slamming violently over and over, night after night.

In the wee small hours of the morning, someone was slamming the door so violently the whole house shook! It would go on and on, enough to wake my girlfriend and I, as our bedrooms were on either side of the door, but not enough to force us out of our warm beds to confront the perpetrator.

We had been blaming the difficult housemate for the slamming door. We thought he was just being a pain! It took months for us to actually remember to ask the housemate to stop and discover it wasn’t him! After that whenever it happened we knew it was our earthbound spirit.

But why? Why did she feel a compulsion to go to the door over and over, night after night, and slam it violently over and again? Was she reliving her last moments alive perhaps? Was she trying to make sense of this final encounter at her front door? Or was she just trying to scare the crap out of us with her obvious strength of will?! She certainly accomplished it!

She never opened up to me. She refused to speak to me so I’ll never know her story and why she chose to stay in the house, terrorising its unsuspecting occupants, year after year!

This was the beginning of an amazing learning curve: being taught by Spirit for Spirit how to perceive and communicate with them: to see them, to hear their messages and to feel what they felt.

This was my entrance to communicating with Spirit. I didn’t have a mentor or teacher to gently guide me into the amazing world of spirit communication…I was thrown in the deep end! I was taught by Spirit for Spirit. She was my first and greatest teacher. She set me on a very new and bizarre trajectory I still follow today.

From then on, where ever I was in the world I had half a dozen earthbound spirits waiting by my bedside every night. I lost all fear of them. I saw them and gradually learned that they needed a kind of spiritual counselling.

Do you have your own stories? Please share your experiences in the comments.

Stay tuned for the next instalment – when I share what all of this meant and how it catapulted my life in a radical new direction!

Art by Freydoon Rassouli


  1. Erin on August 24, 2017 at 1:21 pm

    My first experience was about 7 years old. I’d awaken several times to find a young (maybe 12-13 year old) girl in my bedroom near the foot of my bed, looking over me. She had blonde shoulder length hair and a long pink gown with long sleeves. She had an iridescence about her as I could see her very well in a pitch black room. I would only slightly open my eyes and peek at her as I didn’t want her to know I was awake. The first time I saw her I was a bit shocked, laid completely still and breathed as little as possible. However, it seemed like she was kind and simply watching over me. I would calmly lay in my bed and watch her (however still with my eyes only slightly open) on the nights she’d appear. Coincidentally, one night, she came after I had lost a tooth. That night, it appeared she had looked at my tooth left on my dresser, so I figured, she must be the tooth fairy! Imagine to my surprise a couple years later when I found out the tooth fairy didn’t exist. I was so confused…. “But I’ve seen her with my own eyes! She has blonde hair and a pink gown!” 😉

    • Debra Reeves on August 24, 2017 at 1:34 pm

      Hi Erin, thanks so much for sharing! I wonder who was more shy of these encounters- you or her! These encounters open up so many questions- who was she? Was she attached to the house or passing through? What made her choose you? I hope she has crossed over now and is in her next right place of expression. Much love to you Erin, and thank you for sharing your story!

  2. Erin on August 24, 2017 at 2:14 pm

    To this day, I have no idea who she was. My family built the house, so no one lived in it before us. She seemed confident and kind, almost like a parent looking over their child… even though she was young. She didn’t seem lost or in the wrong place either. The one strange thing about the whole experience was I could never make out a detailed face. Guess I may never know, but it was a neat experience. 🙂

  3. Marina on August 24, 2017 at 2:45 pm

    A few years ago I was in bed fast asleep with my toddler beside me. The bedroom door was shut. I woke suddenly because it felt like the air pressure in the room had changed, sort of like the way a fully sealed room might feel if the door was suddenly opened.
    I was instantly wide awake and looked toward the door. Silhouetted in the doorway was a very tall man. Of course I was terrified and I lay there for several moments in utter fear, unable to take my eyes off him.
    After a 20 or 30 seconds, he disappeared. I turned on the bedside light only to discover the door was shut again. I know I did not imagine or dream this. I was very wide awake and it took hours for me to go to sleep again. When I told my sister about it, she asked what emotion I sensed from this being. When I thought about it, I realised that although I was terrified, the being actually meant me no harm. The main feeling I got from him was curiosity. The house was only new so I don’t think he was attached to the house. Perhaps he was attached to the land as it was used ‘in the olden days’ for the kerosene tin shed style housing.

    • Debra Reeves on August 24, 2017 at 3:05 pm

      Hi Marina, wow love it! Your sister was absolutely right. It’s all about how they make you feel. It’s the easiest way to register their energy and whether they are just lost souls or ratbags out to stir trouble – mine was definitely a ratbag!

      Some homes – new or old- have portals in them if they happen to be buildmt on lei lines, especially where they intersect. But yes land can also hold an energetic residue of a battle or trauma.

      Thank you so much for sharing your story! I hope your man has passed over safely. Much love to you

      • Mark on September 11, 2017 at 8:32 am

        Mine is closely related to this, though it happened exactly 22 years ago when l was about 23 years of age. Then, I was in Tripoli Libya, after player some beautiful tunes on the organ for more than two hours, l laid down on my back just to have a little rest. Immediately, l noticed that a mild wind was pushing my door, as l lifted my eyes to the entrance door, l saw a young man of about 30 years old. His appearance was just like that is Jesus of Nazareth. With a shinny face and a glorious immaculate white gown. Fear gripped me and l was speechless. He looked at me with pity. Within seconds, he disappeared. I screamed. This has remained a mystery to me. Please, can somebody help me unravel this mystery.

        • Debra Reeves on September 11, 2017 at 9:40 am

          Hi Mark, thank you so much for sharing your experience. That must have been one hell of an organ session you had! Your fear is totally understandable – its not your everyday experience! We are so unprepared when Spirit starts popping up like this! It takes time to adjust to it…then it just becomes normal. Oh look theres a bird flying past my window..and a confused looking earthbound spirit hanging around looking lost and alone in the corner!

          Without meeting and communicating with this spirit, its impossible to know who he was. He could be Jesus or an earthbound spirit (doubtful because they don’t shine and look radiant as you describe) or one of your spirit guide team. I’d be inclined to suggest its Jesus. This is pretty accurate description of what he looks like when I meet him in Spirit.

          I wonder whether you were connecting with Spirit at the time? I’d love to understand why this spirit chose to visit you in form!

  4. Midori on August 24, 2017 at 4:15 pm

    Hi, I had something pretty life changing happen to me 10years ago this Fall. I had finished my first half marathon earlier in the day and went to bed early, exhausted, that night at my friends house in Folsom, in her step daughter’s bedroom. My boyfriend was there too, the bed was a large Cal King sized bed, we both were stretched out on our own sides and crashed out early from the events of the long day. Sometime in the middle of the night I was awakened, not by a noise, or that I needed to use the bathroom, but a feeling strong enough to wake me up from a deep sleep. When I turned over from where i had been sleeping on my side and looked down towards the foot of the bed, there was a being of bright light standing at the foot of the bed, by my feet. It had no form, was human height and size, but no body shape, just a being of intense white light, and the most intense bright light too. I remember thinking at the time, while completely and utterly terrified, that this light was brighter than the sun! I didnt, and still don’t, know how it was possoble I was looking at something so bright. I sat up in bed, despite being completely utterly scared. It woke me up and was there for me, so I sat up to see why & what was going on. I didn’t get any sense or hear anything, I was just the most scared I’d ever been in my life. Not long after I sat up, a few seconds, or a minute, I’m not even sure, a ghost of a woman appeared off to the left, a very petite woman in clothing not of this time period, I’d say a dress from the turn of the century. I could not see any detail of her face, just that she was very petite and in an old ruffly dress. At the same time she appeared, a doorway, if you will, appeared between her and the being of light. This doorway was of an even brighter white light. I remember at the time being mystified and shocked that there was something brighter than that being at the foot of the bed, but without a doubt, this doorway was a brighter light. I believe it was the “tunnel”. The light at the end, or beginning, of the tunnel. I sat there terrified, confused, and yet in awe that this miracle was happening in front of me. Shortly after the woman and doorway appeared. We all just were there, in this room, kimd of acknowledging each others presense, but no noise, no message, no feelings, other than my absolute fear. After what seemed like 10-15 seconds, although, I’m not even sure, it could have been longer, suddenly it all vanished, at the same time, and the room went back to being completely pitch black, in the dead of night (no pun intended.) I was completely terrified and curled up as close as I could to my boyfriend. He had slept through the whole thing. It took me a looooong time to fall back asleep, despite being so worn out from a long run earlier that day. The next morning I woke up to my phone going off with a text message from a coworker that my boss (at the time) dad had died in the middle of the night and I should send him and his family prayers. I instantly had that fearful and awestruck feeling again, although not knowing if it was a coincidence or not. I responded back, without really thinking, that maybe that was why I had seen ghosts in the middle of the night, not really thinking about how crazy that sounded. I never got a text back, and I never spoke of what happened that night to anyone at work. A few months later, I was let go from the job. It’s always been a mystery to me what I saw that night. I didn’t speak of it for a few years, when I did eventually talk about it to my friend’s who owned the house, they were unsettled and not happy and have since distanced themselves from me saying that in their religion seeing and speaking with the dead is not OK. So, I have kinda kept my mouth shut about it for the most part, but it wasn’t anything I asked to have happen or sought out. I look at it as one of the biggest blessings of my life. It’s changed my life and I feel lucky to have caught a glimpse of the other side, brings me great comfort everyday of my life.

    • Debra Reeves on August 24, 2017 at 4:37 pm

      Hi Midori, wow thank you so much for sharing. What an awesome experience! It does sound like you had a portal open up to receive a new soul (being of love and light).

      The woman may have been an earthbound spirit attached to the house as I’m not getting the impression she was connected to the soul. When I assist others in Astral Entity Clearings and in Spirit Rescue this light opens in myriad ways to receive the soul. It seems to be different for each soul.

      You are so right to feel lucky to have caught a glimpse of the other side. That’s exactly how I feel every day in my work. Life is never the same again, is it!

      Earthbound spirits are such an extraordinary way to peek behind the veil and understand that the Spirit realms are so close to us.

      Thank you so much for sharing your story. Much love to you.

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